It’s the way you say it that matters

It’s the way you say it that matters

Don’t let your success be trapped by criticism. So many people let other people down in criticizing their behavior. They question other people’s opinions and censor their statements.

I want to ask you:
Are you going to play a criticizing or a supporting role in your life?

The problem with fixating on other people’s histories and life is that makes you think small and play small. It robs you your own voice. By comparing to others, by looking too much what other people are doing, you’ll start playing small and diminishing your voice and presence.

You don’t have to be the smartest person in the room to convince, and sometimes even an “I don’t know the answer!” can speak for you.

The one who thinks she always knows the answers, and knows what is best, the one who steadily criticizes others, is not more successful than the person who is humble, modest and has learned to respect other people.

A bit of empathy is certainly not false and there are times when finding your voice after you hear what others have to say is the most powerful choice.
Your voice is strong, when it is founded on generosity and love.

Most of us don’t want to criticize others because we know how awful it is to receive negative feedback. Most of us fear criticism. Yet many of us fall into the trap and criticize others. It is fun to talk about others and people make it to a habit to produce their bad behavior onto others. It is so easy to criticize others’ mistakes and faults and we have learned to overlook our own problems.

What you should learn
The more you criticize others, the more attention you give critical thoughts, and the more sensitive you will become to criticism yourself. That’s how our mind works.

Watch out for the joy-stealers: gossip, criticism, complaining, faultfinding, and a negative, judgmental attitude.

Joyce Meyer

When you cannot avoid to give negative feedback, do it like that:

Sandwich every bit of criticism between two layers of praise.

Mary Kay Ash